One of the various ways to feel emotionally involved in literature is by putting ourselves in the character's situation. In the case of an adultery, for instance, if we're asked to give our personal response to the case, most would either condemn the adulterer or judging him/her by our standard. However, when we pretend to be the one involved in the case, many of us would shift our perspectives and become more imaginative (if not crazy in imagination).
Take a look at Raymond Carver's "What We Talk About When We Talk About Love" and choose to be either Mel, Terry, Laura, and Nick. Write a diary entry or a letter addressed to someone, and express what kind of love you believe in. Remember, you are taking the character's position, not talking about the kind of love "you yourself" intend to find in your life.
Note: This post is for Prose class, 2006. However, anybody other than the members of the class would be welcome to give comments.
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All the people who are contemplating the essential of love
Nov, 15’08
--a calm starry night--
Ehm…so, what we’re talking about when we talk about love? Well, I’m sure love is unbounded theme to talk about. There are lots of incredible thing we can find through love; happiness, joy, sadness, tear, pain, loyalty, sacrificing, and so on. To borrow what Peck said, when we’re falling in love, we should do something for the one we loved as a proof of our love. Moreover, it is also said that there are many types of love depending how it is expressed. Is it true?
It is nice for me to share the idea of love based on my life experience. Without being proud, I say that I have two gentlemen love me a lot. And I see how different they express and prove their love to me. Now, I’ll start from the first gentleman with whom I live now.
Mel, Mel McGinnis, a cardiologist, is my beloved husband. He is my second husband whom I live with now. It is not important to doubt how great his love on me. He gives his attention and care. We have been together for five years and been married for four. We love each other and live happily. However, he will be emotionally when we come to topic of Ed, my previous husband. And we will spend much time to debate it—whether Ed really loved me or not-- off. I may excuse it, since he wonders at me. We had lived in fugitives from fear and terror done by Ed. Somehow, Mel always tries to secure me; how I can feel safe. That’s love. That’s Mel’s love. That is the way he expresses and proves his love on me. I love you Mel.
Now, I’ll share the other kind of love I’ve ever involved. Ed, my first husband who loved me in his own way, in different way, so different from Mel, is the other gentleman. He damned loved me. He used to try to protect me. What people may think strange or maybe abnormal is the way he proved his love. He was arrogant in expressing his love. He had ever dragged me by my ankle around the living room while saying “I love you, Terri”. Moreover, He tried to kill me. Somehow, I know there is love there. There is love in his arrogance, there is love in his sarcasm, and there is love in his tight protection.
Once I left him, he tried to kill himself by drinking rat poison, but he bungled it. Afterwards, his life was getting worse. Furthermore, his love on me was getting crazier. He always threatened Mel and I, conditioned us in terror. Our life was about nightmare. Oh my God, Ed, I know you love me, I never doubt your love, but…..
All in all, I try to use my logic. I realize people are different. So, that’s Ed. That’s his love. He might threaten Mel since he was afraid of loosing me, he was jealous. His effort to commit suicide went on. He tried to kill himself by shooting himself in the mouth. He bungled that one too, but his condition was miserable before died. I was so sorry to him. He killed himself because failed winning me. He tried to prove how deep he loved me by sacrificing himself. Although Mel thought it was such a silly thing, committing suicide for love, I appreciate it indeed. That was why; I fought with Mel to stay in his room before his death.
Whatever people say, whatever Mel says about Ed, in spite of his craziness in love, Ed is human being who has love, gives love, and needs to be loved. He has his own terminology of love in his mind. And that’s the proof. So, Ed, thanks for loving me. You have taught me how to respect other’s love.
People are not the same. Thus, we can accept our mate just the way they are and appreciate their uniqueness. Mel loves me by his attention and care. Ted loves me by his possessiveness, craziness, and sacrifice.
Indah Purwaningsih
062154006
English Literature’06
WHAT WE ARE TALKING WHEN WE TALK ABOUT LOVE
PRAGMA!!
Hi...diary
I am Mel MCGinnis and I am a cardiologist. I had ever married with a woman but we had separated, from my first wife i got a daughter and I love her so much. Now I love my second wife, she is Teressa-Terri. She is a bone-thin woman with a pretty face, dark eyes, and brown hair that hung down her back. She likes necklaces made of turquoise and long pendant earing. Terri also had ever married, her first husband is Ed, but i think Ed is a crazy man. He always hurt Terri, he tried to kill her and he ever threaten me and Terri, I mean he always threatening. But I still can't believe why Terri call that behavior with love, and I hate to hear that. I do believe in love and I think real love was nothing less than spiritual love. My live story just like pragma. I meet Terri in the right time and we have the same problem. I need people that love me and can make me feel comfort and so do Terri. I think Terri needs some favors and protection from someone and I want to give it. I want to build a happy family with her. Planning is a characteristic of pragma and the personality of Terri is the major consideration for me. We are both feel so tired with the hard condition that we had faced. So we view love as useful relationship that make the rest of life easier. I don't want to look Terri sad, I will save her well.
Astri Purwantari
062154029
English Literature '06
What we Talk about when we Talk about Love....
for those who still had a sense of love, i want to share a stories of love. In this world, there are many kinds of love, this is one of the stories...
One day at evening, I and my wife Laura visited our friend home, they are Mel McGinnis and Terri. We had an evening chat about love with a glass of gin. Terri has first turn to tell his love story, she told about her first love before with Mel McGinnis, someone called “Ed”. After I heard some of her stories, I feel the way Ed loving Terri is very odd, how come Ed expressing his love by violence, torture her to almost faint. Same with me, Mel is disagreeing if it’s called with love, it’s almost like insanity. But whatever our opinions, she still considered those violence as love. Don’t you think these relationships similar with abnormal behaviors like sadomasochist?
Ed loving Terri so much he drives so crazy, she told us lot of crazy behaviors happened to him. One day when Terri away from home, Ed drank rat poison, and then he pulled his gums away from teeth, finally he shot himself in the mouth in his room. But then Mel convinces Terri if that wouldn’t happen again and four of us have a toast. I think the way Mel loving Terri is honestly and right.
Then it’s time Mel asking to us about our love affairs. My experience with love may not as much as them since my marriage with my wife, Laura is still one year and a half month. Both of us still had no problem at all about love, but until when?
for i myself, love is something that we must protect,hold and care together. it's just a joke if you can have a love just by yourself. love is made for togetherness with your girl/boyfriend, family, friends and every people that has a role in your life. and one thing that you can't find in love is violence. no one can be forced to loving someone, and you can't stop someone who he/she loved.
Several times drank gin, Mel keep talking to us. Most of it sounds like giving us advice and some daydreaming, such as if he became a chef, armored knight with horse, or else. Terri thought he’s drunk but he isn’t drunk yet.
Sunlight is fading off, all of us still sitting on the dinner table, forget if we’re hungry while we chat about love, the gin also already run out. Terri said if she want to take some cheese and crackers but she’s not moving from her chair. Suddenly I could heard all heart beating, maybe our heart already synchronize without realize it.
and that's all about today's love story from me. one lesson before i ended this story: "Because every people in this world, someday, will struggle for any kinds of love they need"
Yopie Gandajaya
062154215
English Literature '06
Laura's Diary
"I would really thank to God,
With all of blessing that I got.
Nicky was holding tight in my side, And this made me pride.
Though we had the past,
Still I appreciated love between us.
I put away all of my bad dreams,
And I would be happy with him."
Those words could represent my feelings towards Nicky. I could not categorize what kind of love that we had. It was a kind of 'storge' love if I looked at it from the first I met him. I was a legal secretary and we met in a professional capacity (p.785). An affectionate love that we had slowly develops from friendship. But then I felt it changed, not worse but even better. I felt that he loved me in erotic way. The 'storge' love changed into 'eros' love. He loved me in passion. He showed to everybody; kissed me (p.786), hugged me even held tight my hands (p.784). He admired me and did not miss the little things around me. He knew the perfect manicured on my nails and my color nail polished (p.784). I did not know what would happened in the following day but today I'd like this kind of love that we had.
Fenny Kusumawardani
062154002
Elit06
_page two forty six of my notes_
It’s about Terri…
I didn’t think she still remember him like that,
I didn’t think she still remember him like that,
And I didn’t think she grant it as love,
I still don’t…
Because I do love you…
It’s about Terri…
The woman I love so much right now,
The woman I love so much just in my way,
No matter what others said,
I just love her out of my soul, even
It’s about Terri…
With all of my fearful,
With all of my sickness,
With all of my none perfect,
She holds me,
She holds me with her arms,
Warm arms…
It’s about Terri…
She has already changed my life,
Past is just a memory for me,
But, beside her,
Nothing is a memory,
I find the simple house in a green land,
Simple outside, lovely inside…
It’s about Terri…
We both have a past love and life,
I do believe we can save it as a simple memory,
Just a simple memory,
Yes, just a simple thing,
Not more…
It’s about you, Teressa…
Let me hold you in my arms,
Let me put you deep in my heart,
Let me hug you in my romantic kissing…
Terry my sweetheart,
I do believe that you love me just the way you are, I do believe that you give your hands for a simply me, I do believe that we can change our life better. With all of my soul, I do love you, whatever yesterday did and were, you are mine right now, and I always try to show you how deep my love for you. With all of my kissings, I will show you that love is a logic and realistic. But, it’s not as simple as you think, when we are using our logic, we will more understand about love itself. Yes, I agree that love is blind, like your Ed was. But, let me hold you to clarify the meaning of love through my heart. I’m just a cardiologist who don’t care about truly love maybe. But, I do believe that everyone has love inside his heart and love won’t make us suffer…
Thank you, Terri, for being mine forever…
I do love you…
Maria Ulfa Octavia SK
062154001
English Literature '06
Adam and eve have made first and last true love
And I’ll continue it….
Love is Allah’s gift to the creature in the world
As a human being we have to protect and save it…
Whether it has kinds of love
But one thing that we should know about love is…
Love is a key to success living in this beautiful planet….
Well, I don’t know how to be pretending somebody like in this story. This story has made a lot of questions in my mind whether Mel loves Terry or he loves his ex-wife. And also Terry has made much of argumentation with Mel that Ed’s attitude was kinds of loves that Ed wants to show. Terry was in love with Ed, and Ed was in love with Terry. Ed showed his love through violence because he loves my wife so much he doesn’t know what to do with it. Actually, I love my ex wife so much that I wants to kill her, I want to impose violence on her. Plus I tell Laura I could love her too and says that if Terry died I'd move on. I myself believe love to be interchangeable. But it's not. Ed is not in love with Terry. I still in love with my ex-wife, even though I want to kill her and there's nothing I can do about it. And my wife's allergic to bees. That's not an accident. It’s with the realization that I and my wife doesn’t love each other, I love the lovers I had before. But there's nothing I can do about it because Ed's dead, and my ex-wife won't speak to me. How poor I am to have such kind of this condition. Even I can’t ignore if I love my ex-wife but I love terry too. But she always tells about her ex-crazy husband. This may my Eros loves, I’m not maniac even I want to kill my ex-wife. I need deep intensity, and I can’t hear my wife talked about her ex-husband. I will always reject her words to argue her opinion about her impression of ex-husband. She always shows and tells that Ed loves her in his own way. And tell the hell words that everyone is different. I agree about that but please put it out those words. Look out that his attitude kinds of violence. And nobody can accept it.
Yudhistira as....
(062154015)
Guess it Mam (^_^) ?
What we talk about When we talk about love
As a Nicky, kind of Love Pragma
My Diary,
Thanks God, You give me a wonderful life. Because I have a good wife like Laura,and I love her so much. When I and Laura visit to Mel and Terri’s home, we got on the subject of Love.Mel thought real love was nothing less than spiritual love. Terri states that her most dramatic encounter with love was a relationship with a man named Ed, with whom she lived before she met and fell in love with Mel. Ed used to beat Terri because he could not possess her totally. He even tried to kill her because he loved her so much. I didn’t even know about Ed, but I think what they are saying is that love is an absolute. But, a manner’s Ed loved Terri is wrong. Because is not love, Ed such as type love person like Mania. Type love Mania is obsessive and highly volatile love fuelled by low self-esteems,it’s often the first love style that teenagers display, especially first love. I’m different than Ed, I’m loved her wife when I met in a professional capacity, Laura is a legal secretary. Before I knew it, it was a courtship. I’m such as type love person like Pragma. Because Pragma is realistic, practical logical love. The type of love which can go out looking for a partner based on a lifetime personality of requirements, which can be a bit unemotional. At that moment I took Laura’s hand and raised it to my lips. And I made a big production out of kissing her hand, I said “ We are lucky”. And I loved Laura the way she is.
Nenny Putri L
062154204
English Literature 06
EKYAMI TONIK R.
062154209
My Dear diary,,,
It was beautiful day when we talked about love…Love is the most beautiful feeling to me.
When I sat around together with Nick,Laura, and my lovely husband, then we enjoy drinking gin, and we talked about love.I remembered to my ex boyfriend Ed who has ever lived with me before I lived with Mel. He loved me so much. But he often beats me up one night and even dragged me around livingroom. He said that he loved me. Yeah..I believed it. I am sure, that I’m not totally wrong to say that there was love. I know that he is too different from others. It may sounds crazy for anyone. He had his own way, but he loved me. I can feel it, altough Mel doesn’t believe that there is no love like that. Ed threatened to kill me and Mel because he was jelous. Ed tried to suicide by drinking rat poison, when I left him. I could see that he didn’t want to let me go away. And he didn’t want to find me with someone else. He even decided to shut himself in the mouth. I see that it because he loves me. It’s just like “love mania”. It is types of love which are the man have big willingness or desire for belonging someone and they will kill anyone who want to obscure their desire. It really happens to Ed. Yeah…it sounds scary. He threatened us as fugitives. He has ever terrorized Mel by calling in a phone. Oh my God, it made us uncomfortable to set us free. Sometimes, Mel is right that love is we don’t try to kill people. But I have taken the evidence. He was willing to die for it. He did die for it. And I have kept my Ed’s love to my bottom of my heart.
It is different with me. I love Mel the way he is. He is a cardiologist who had been left by his first wife. He has nothing. Majorie, his first wife has bankrupted him. She has a boyfriend who lives with her and the kids. But I and Mel live together in simple apartment. We love each other. Mel loves me deeply, so do I. I accept my lovely husband with all his suffering. I called it as “agape love” or selfless love. Hmm...it is kind of lve with no expectations to their lover. I hope Mel will accept me the way I am too. I have no doubt to pass my life with him. Mell…..you’re all that I need,hun.
God I need your guiding to keep my blessing love. I hope it can make us better,,,,ammiin.
My name is Laura and I have just married to Nick. Our love story are like pragma and storge. Why? Because, for the first time when I met Nick, it was on the same occupation. And then, we were interested each other as a friend and I knew that we were very respected in friendship. The time was passing by, he and I knew that we needed each other not only as a friend but also as a special friend. One day, I and him realized that we were falling in love each other. We required enough long time to accept transition from friend to be girlfriend and boyfriend. Now, our relationship are not only as special girlfriend/boyfriend but also as a man needs a woman. The day is passing by I can understand that I love him so much, I am more and more interested with his personality. Because, I think that he is different from others men that I had ever met before. According to my opinion, getting marriage is not only spending all the time together but also sharing thought and heart each other. In shortcut, marriage is a journey between a woman and a man in which they are walking side by side and getting closer year by year. I hope that my marriage story will be the best present.
Citra Eka P.
062154026
It is me Laura. I have such a beautiful love story ever. I have a husband. His name is Nick. We have just married. I still can not forget the way we met view years ago. It was really unpredictable. I knew him and he knew me. We have no relationship before. Then, we became a friend. A good friend. We were interested in this relationship, because we can share everything each other. I started to learn who he is actually. He is so gorgeous and smart. And so did him. Getting longer, he understood than we need one each other. We faced one time when we realize that we were not only friend, but become more than that. That’s why, I call it storge love. Love that grows from friendship. At last, here we are a new couple. I don’t know why and how. He needed me and I needed him also. Start from that, I learn to know his personality deeper. I am more and more interested with him. It is called pragma love. One fact, we are falling in love. The time goes by. Based on his personality, I knew that he is so different than others. But we have the same mission and vision about life. So that we decided to get married. For me getting married is such one way to combine two hearts to be one. Being wife or husband is one of the most interesting thing in this world, especially being Nick’s wife.
Veny Anjarsari
062154027
Dear Diary…
What a bright day. Yesterday Nicky and I went to Mel and Terri’s house… and guess what we’re talking about. Yeah, LOVE. Terri told me about her former husband, jealousy, crazy and rude. One time Terri’s former husband’s going to kill her. Isn’t it crazy? She even said it’s love. I don’t think so, he’s just a criminal, he’s love is such a Mania love, he controls everything by his emotion, without using his brain first.
We drank gin together, and Mel never stop talking about love, until he couldn’t control the words came out from his mouth, I thought he’s drunk. They’ve been together for 5 years and married for 4 years. And they’d another person they marry with before. But they looked still love each other, just like me and my lovely husband, Nicky. I love Nicky very much, he’s my only love and no one can replace him, I know our marriage is going to 18 months, but I am sure this is going to be last forever, I think my love for Nicky is a Pragma love, everything can be easy with him, I knew him a lot before we’re decided to marry, and until today I can see his love for me still burning just like fire in his eyes. Thank God I’ve found my Nicky…
Dias Agata as Laura
062154022
English Literature 2006
subject:
--cloudy heart--
huh..
Well, I have married a beautiful woman named Teresa for four years. You know it isn’t my first marriage and of course she is my second wife. Terri, that is the way I call her, she is a beautiful woman with the brown hair and dark eyes. I really love her and I think she does too. I don’t know why she always think about Ed, yeah he is the man she lived with before she lived with me. Actually I really don’t know how is her brain work well or not. You know what this man tries to do to my hon ? HE TRIES TO KILLED HER ! Can’t you believe it ?! Terri said to me this ill man did that because he love her.
LOVE ! What kind of love that makes a man hurt a woman. I don’t believe it is the real meaning of loving somebody. Then, one thing that make me confuse Terri believe that Ed’s crazy habit is the way to show Ed’s love. “It may sound crazy to you, but it’s true just the same.” Damn! What same ?! She keep talking, ”People are different, Mel. Sure sometimes he may have acted crazy. Ok. But he loved me. In his own way maybe but he loved me. Don’t say there wasn’t.” Yeah. Terri’s of the kick-me-so-I’ll-know-you-love-me school. Right. I just wouldn’t call Ed’s behaviour love. For you know this “loveable” man also threatened to kill me. Geez! I want to tell her that hon, it is not the right way to show love. Love isn’t try to kill people. Although finally Ed really end his life with shot himself in the mouth. I’m not feel poor for Ed. Nothing ! He is dangerous and it prove with it “suicide for love”, huh. SILLY.
Well there something spinning in my mind that time. What is the meaning of the real love for me? Of course I’m not like Ed. I mean I’m not the kind of man that could hurt in this case try to kill someone to have her love. I think Ed is the type of maniac lover. He feel jealousy then he is emotional then he could do anything to anybody that he believed had disturbed their relationship. I believe that physical love that impulse that drives you to someone special, yeaah as well as love his or her essence as it were. Day to day caring about to other person. And if someday something happened to one of us, I think the other one would grieve for a while, but hmm live must go on right ? the surviving one would go out and love again, have someone else soon enough. We need someone beside us to continuing this life. Well I don’t know I’m right or wrong. But all I know for right now I love Terri. And I’ll try to keep her as long as I can.
Dhita Retnaningdyah K.
062154008
English Literature 2006
--cloudy heart--
huh.
Well, I have married a beautiful woman named Teresa for four years. You know it isn’t my first marriage and of course she is my second wife. Terri, that is the way I call her, she is a beautiful woman with the brown hair and dark eyes. I really love her and I think she does too. I don’t know why she always think about Ed, yeah he is the man she lived with before she lived with me. Actually I really don’t know how is her brain work well or not. You know what this man tries to do to my hon ? HE TRIES TO KILLED HER ! Can’t you believe it ?! Terri said to me this ill man did that because he love her.
LOVE ! What kind of love that makes a man hurt a woman. I don’t believe it is the real meaning of loving somebody. Then, one thing that make me confuse Terri believe that Ed’s crazy habit is the way to show Ed’s love. “It may sound crazy to you, but it’s true just the same.” Damn! What same ?! She keep talking, ”People are different, Mel. Sure sometimes he may have acted crazy. Ok. But he loved me. In his own way maybe but he loved me. Don’t say there wasn’t.” Yeah. Terri’s of the kick-me-so-I’ll-know-you-love-me school. Right. I just wouldn’t call Ed’s behaviour love. For you know this “loveable” man also threatened to kill me. Geez! I want to tell her that hon, it is not the right way to show love. Love isn’t try to kill people. Although finally Ed really end his life with shot himself in the mouth. I’m not feel poor for Ed. Nothing ! He is dangerous and it prove with it “suicide for love”, huh. SILLY.
Well there something spinning in my mind that time. What is the meaning of the real love for me? Of course I’m not like Ed. I mean I’m not the kind of man that could hurt in this case try to kill someone to have her love. I think Ed is the type of maniac lover. He feel jealousy then he is emotional then he could do anything to anybody that he believed had disturbed their relationship. I believe that physical love that impulse that drives you to someone special, yeaah as well as love his or her essence as it were. Day to day caring about to other person. And if someday something happened to one of us, I think the other one would grieve for a while, but hmm live must go on right ? the surviving one would go out and love again, have someone else soon enough. We need someone beside us to continuing this life. Well I don’t know I’m right or wrong. But all I know for right now I love Terri. And I’ll try to keep her as long as I can.
Dhita Retnaningdyah K.
062154008
English Literature 2006
---Terri's Diary---
dear diary...
My life is full of love..
My husband, Mel McGinnis, loves me very much. He left his wife and get married with me. I know, I do something bad but i can't do something. I need him because I want to find another man who more better than Ed, my first husband. Ed loved me very much and done everything to protect me. He done everything to get what he wanted. I can't do anything..! I love him,. He was very possesive. He gave much limitation for me. He tried to kill me. Oo my God,,.! He was maniac lover.! He was blind because of his love. DEAR,,, I love him but I don't like his way to show his love. DEAR,, I can't stand it anymore. I feel like in a jail. I have to find a better man who loves me in the right way.
After I met Mel, my love husband.. I feel more enjoy my life. He loves me very much and I love him, too. He is a pragma lover. He doesn't give me much limitation to do something. We have a beautiful life together. I know, sometimes he like a stone which always can't receive somecritic from someone but he always protect me and always try to make me feels happy.
DEAR...
Now, I know the differences between true love and maniac love. Someone has different ways to show his love. I hope I can life together with me love, Mel McGinnis. Mel,, I love you....
Pascarini Citra G.
062154010
English Literature '06
-What we talk about when we talk about love-
Mel's diary
Gin's day...yeah I would say that thousand times in my life. The day when everything on me is conquered by gin. But it doesn't matter..sure it doesn't! Because I can tell everyone on that table what truly love is meant to me. Love doesn't hurt someone whom we loved physically. It's about making her happy each day. Well, I won't hate Terri for her believe in Ed's love. But that's crazy. How could she accept that? I can give her more precious love. I won't do something silly through my love. I can give her more than just love. But she..she still stands on her foolishness to feel sorry on Ed's death. That's what I hate actually!
Well, I know I'm not such Romeo who sacrifices his life for Juliette. I'm just a man who try to find my perfect mate. I couldn't find that on my ex wife. And now you are on my list, Terri. I hope you don't try to cheat or even compare me with that silly Ed. Or I can get another woman to be my next list if I want. Am I pragma? Yes, I am. And that's what makes me leave my kid's mother. But I love so much, Terri. Then I will show you what real love is. And I will really beg you to listen for once.. Please, look at me! I'm here for you, for your love..but not for accepting Ed's love (that didn't mean love at all to me). I'm jealous! Yeah, I could tell our pals about it on that table, and of course with my gin. Oh yeah..You forgot something, Terri. I'm not drunk. You can say what I told you was drunken talking. But I really meant that! I talked about you, I talked about love, that's what my heart really wanted to say (though i never told you that before). Well..err yeah, gin helped me a little to say that.
You know, Terri, sometimes I want to be knight who came earlier to safe you. But I just a mechanic who go in and around and fix things. I can't be your first, I know. But if in the end I'm with you, I'll take the chance. I love you, Terri.. with or without gin.
Melsa Puspawinda Putri
English Literature
062154017
-What we talk about when we talk about love-
Laura's deepest heart
You are the best I ever loved...
You are the best I ever missed...
You are the best I ever needed...
You are the best I ever wanted...
Then, You are the best I ever had...
And I still have you...
Those words represent my feeling to Nick. I love him so much. He is a romantic person. He is my loveliest lovely love. We loved each other at the first sight. Now, in eighteenth month of our marriage, we still love each other. How wonderful the world is! Our love is so beautiful. "Eros" love is the kind of love that we have. We share passion and desire to each other. I express my affection to him everyday, everytime. So does he. I like the way he loves me. I like the way he puts me in the high place as his wife. He treats and takes care of me well. We really enjoy our marriage and our life. I hope our love will last forever.
Pramasti Dyah Iswari
062154003
English Literature '06
18th january, my heart bloom with love
Dear diary..
Hmm... You know yesterday I got a good experience when I, nick- my beloved husband, Mel and him wife terry chat together at Mel’s house. I got a new thought that I ever thought before. Something influences my whole life and my entire dream which is beautiful things in life. It is LOVE! Yes LOVE..
Love which was people has on their life. Love that makes my life becomes beautiful and colorful especially when I’m married with nick eighteen month ago.
Well, from our chat last day, I realized that still many kind of love that human had to show their love. In my life, I have met many kind of love that a man showed him love for me and I never thought that there was a love like terry’s ex-husband, and then we called him-ed. The ways Ed to show him love was very complicated for me. I don’t understand why Ed shows the love with beat terry and said “I love you” at once. It was like ‘mania’ love, I don’t know why he chooses this kind of love. Although, Mel didn’t think it is love but I do believe that there was a love like Ed have. And one more important thing, we can judge anyone else’s feels and situation, right.
Ah, just let it past…
It is not the right cases that I want to write..
Back to love again. When I talking about love, of course I will talk about me and nick love.
Since I met him when I was work and in professional capacity. I have found a match side of him for me. We were like each other and enjoy one another. Know the love story of terry’s love, make me realized that nick is the best one I ever got in my life. I do very thankful to God had sent nick for me. Even I and nick ever failed with our first marriage. I belief he loves me as I do. I will keep this long as strong as I can. I won’t it failed again. I want we live until we old. I know that he want like I want. I can see that nick have the same love for me.
I can feel it when he looks my eyes, when he touched my hand and kissed it, when he touched my knees.
I love the way nick shows love, it feel so romantic to me like ‘eros’ love. He never shamed show her love for me in front of people. I feel his take care of me when he hugs me. I like the love we had right now.
Oh, I’m really loves him so much. The way he makes me comfort makes me never to let him go.
For nick, thank you for all of your love. Thank you that you have come in my life. Thank you for being my husband. Thank you for anything. Once again, I Love you Nick….
Dian Kartika Sari
062154211
English Literature’06
Nick's Diary
What we are talking when we talk about love...
Hi diary...
i want to share with you about the meaning of love in this world. Well, love has a universal meaning. It is property which is really valuable in my life. It has been given by God to the creature in the world. As human being, everybody has it to care and keep each other.
Thanks God for all that you have given to me. I have a wonderful girl like Laura. We have an affectionate love which is started by friendship. For the first time we met in a professional capacity. And then we have fallen in love to each other by during the time. I really enjoy to face my life until now because of her. I couldn't imagine if i lost her in the future. I do love her more than anything in this world. She is unchangeable in my life.
It's very hard for me to categorize what kind of love that we has.I have to think twice just only to decide it. But,I think It is a 'storge' love. Because we had fallen in love that started by friendship.
Amadea Elian Akbar
062154013
Eng.Lit
DIAN TANTIUTAMI
062154009
PROSE ASSIGNMENT
LITERATURE CLASS
My Beautiful Love...
My name is Laura. I am a secretary, legal secretary. I have a husband named Nick. He is three years older than me. We have been together for one and a half year.
My husband, Nick, loves me so much and his love makes me feel so comfortable running my life. I love him in a way he loves me too. Nick is a romantic person. He never says a lot to prove his love to me. He always shows his love with such a beautiful act. Like when I asked him to say about what LOVE is, he gave his answer by taking my hands and raising them to his lips then he kissed my hands. His act made my pals, Terri and her husband, Mel, amused and so did I.
I am a lucky girl, I think, since I have never met a cruel man like what had happened to Terri. The man she lived with before she lived with Mel loved her so much but the man's love was quite different with the love she has gotten from her husband now, Mel, and also the love I have gotten from my beloved husband. At that time, he tried to kill Terri by beating her up one night and dragging her around the living room by her ankles. Terri believed that he did such crazy action in order to show his love to her. Terri realized that he had different way to prove his love.
For me, it was such an erotic love which is a mania love.
He tended to be a maniac lover who often destroyed what they were seeking by the excess of their emotions. He was consumed by emotions, jealousy, joy, sorrow, despairs, and ecstasy which all flash by in rapid order.
I thank to God since the man I have, Nick, is a kind person who has never acted crazy to prove his love. He never attempts to manipulate me in a bad way. In contrary, by using his love, he attempts to create positive emotion for me. Sometimes, he makes his love stronger by having an emotion like jealousy as an outburst of love in spite of anger, guilt, or even sex drive.
My love to Nick is quite similar with what he has given to me. My love is a romantic love which conventionally emphasizes the enhancement of love. My love has also deal with the same emotion closely tied to the love relationship that is jealousy and I realize that jealousy is powerful. I follow the concept of zero-sum love where the amount of love is limited; therefore love must be concentrated exclusively on one object in which jealousy is an almost inevitable emotion. I tend to own a specification of possessives jealousy because sometimes I give a limitation of freedom and independence to Nick but I still keep all of that in a right portion.
For me and my husband, love can make our life more brightness and colorful. We love each other since we realize that love is powerful and it is an important element in man's life. Nick and I believe that our survival really depends on the healing power of love, intimacy, and relationship. For us, love and intimacy is the root of feeling sick or well, happy or sad, and even joy or sorrow.
Tri Rahayu Mayasari
062154007
English Literature
Prose
My diary ( as Laura )
In my mind, love is the most important element for my life.I thank to God given me Nick who has been giving me a great love as my husband. Having Nick as my husband makes me becoming a perfect person, because he love me just what the way I am, and so do I. Eventhough we are new couple and still in honeymoon, we feel that we have spent the time in many years. I think getting the good husband as like Nick is the result of my good and long consideration inside the brain.
In the matter of love, I am a typical woman who never believe in instant process. In choosing my couple I always use my consideration in order I do not regret for my decision. Before getting married with Nick, I had deep courtship. He and me were trying to recognize each other and understanding each characterization of us. After we got the courtship we realized that we have the compatibility in fact. Perhaps because of the same field in working that create it. I first met him in a professional capacity, then we were falling in love and enjoy one another’s company. The courtship we got make us knew the personality and how the lifestyles of each couple. I believed that me and my husband, Nick, have the sameness. Both of us are belongs to romantic person.
Different person will has different idea of love. For me, my idea of love is the rightest one. I do believe in a kind of love of pragma , the love which need the compatibility of lifestyle and personality as the major consideration. This love can influence myself in doing the daily life. I cannot imagine how terrible it is if I got married with a man whose personality and lifestyle are not suitable at all with my qualification. Perhaps I would have undergone as like what Mel and Terri have ever got. Both of them have ever made mistakes in their last marriage, and I believe that it is caused by a short and wrong consideration in choosing their last couple.
In my opinion, looking for a couple based on my idea of love can give me more safety and comfort. Getting couple whose personality and lifestyle are same, can make me feeling as the happiest woman in this world. The husband who has understood who I am can love me more naturally. I can get the affection that I need. Because of the compatibility of lifestyle and personality, I can communicate everything easier and share all of burden in my head to him. If we do not have the compatibility, I think we do not get a well communication in our household. If it comes true, it is possible for us to get divorce one day, just like the last marriage of Mel and Terri.
My love is my husband. I have everything on him and also on the contrary. The love of Nick is my power to survive my life in the world. Without his love, perhaps I am living death right now. Because he know how to spoil me when I got depression, he does not love me based on his own way only, but he always trying to understand what I need and what he should be. I really love him so much, his affection and love makes my life so valuable.
Nov 18, 2006
In loneliness of 12:00 a.m
062154004 Mifta_chan
My Dearest One and Only Beneficial Sworn Mate in Sheets…,
Unbelievable gloomy day I found , you must disbelieve in me… ! But it strengthens my love to my husband. So, I and the apple of my eyes, guess who? Nick of course were driven to a “drinkin’ party” with Mel and Terri all that days. We were involved in such kind of an unarranged panel in which all we talked was about love as though we four were the experts of that four-letter-word, L O V E. What can be said about this word then? We even had our own visions about love. But the most interesting thing is we both, I and Nick were dragged on a situation where there happened great disputes between Mel and his lovely second wife, Terri.
Know somethin’, mate? The topic was firstly focused the point on Ed way in lovin’ Terri. Sorry for not tellin’ you about him. As a matter of fact, Ed is the dead man whom Terri lived with before she decided to break up with and made a serious relationship with Mel. I pick up that Ed was a madman, maniac. He expressed his love to his beloved woman through totally strange way, totally terrible!!! Guess what??? Ed hit her all the time, hurt her physically while sayin’ love to her. What a crazy, you see!! She felt threatened then left him. I think Terri did the best thing. You must also think so, mustn’t you??? The bad thing happened after that was the committin’ suicide of Ed. But, as the time was runnin’, Terri was aware how Ed loved her very much!!! But wait, did he, indeed??? I personally guess NO, for God’s sake!!! So does Mel. C’ mone it is abusing the real meaning of love!!! And for that Mel and Terri argued each other.
In spite of what that spouse talk, I love Nick very much than everythin’. I believe my love is powerful and I find it is, yes. I choose the best for me, much better than everyone else I met both in the office and outside as my professional capacity as a legal secretary. You know, at the first time I met Nick, I did not directly fell in love with him. There were so many friends in the office. I interacted of course with all partners there. And it is nice to have many friends while doin’ your works. Yet, both his life style and personality interested me very much.
To me, getting love is not the matter on the first sight or not, instead of enjoying your interaction with many people you meet then selectin’ one the special best for you to love as he should be… And see the fact now!!! I am happy becomin’ Nick’s wife . I prove you that this principal blesses my life so great. So, to not abusin’ the real meaning of love, I will do everything to make him happy as the solemn promise of our wedding say… Agree???
so sorry mam for the wrong bold typed 'I' means ':)' Sorry for the technical wrong font made, then...hope you enjoy our comments...
Now, I know, there is something that everyone thinks weird but it exist, it is real and it is happening around me. Yes. And, I heard it from my Mel—my husband’s friend—‘s second wife, Terri, yesterday.
Love was so complicated. It was usual. But, in other case, the word ‘complicated’ is more than just complicated. Like the story I heard from Terri.
It was about the man she lived with before she lived with Mel. The man so loved her and tried to kill her. The man was loved her like crazy. And at least he died by shooting his mouth himself.
Mel did not agree if there was love in the man’s mind. Because, he thought that the man would never kill her love. But, Terri was sure that there was a love.
—Yes, actually I agreed with Mel. But, in fact, I was wrong. When someone loved someone else, there was something that no one ever knows. It was possible that someone who loved someone else would have a feel to killing his/her love.
It is weird but exists. Sometimes it comes to person’s mind.—
Mel was being mad and had told about and old man story. And, we, I and my husband and Terri, thought that all of us were under gin’s effect. After Mel’s story we finished our gin and went to other place for eating.
Febrian Eka Aditya
062154220
Today is my marvelous day that I won’t forget because I feel like a poet catching an brilliant inspiration . Terri, i am really grateful to God who has given me a piece of my soul. I mean, you are the keeper guiding the luminosity of love in my heart. I ‘ll thank to anything which has brought together; time, patience, affection and especially your love. I am like a kid in Christmas getting an amazing gift, and you are my gift, Terri!
I finally found someone who loves the way I am and I love the way you love me. I tell the truth, after splitting up from my first wife, I didn’t believe in love thing. I disregarded any of love from women. My sense of life was gone, and I’d rather being looser. But the circumstance changed drastically when I met you since. Terri, i don’t want to miss your smile.
I don’t know what if the love didn’t unite us, can you imagine that Terri? I think, obviously, you love me too. Can you remember the days we have gone by with loving. Yah, Terri, you must know truly deeply my own love. Sometime love is mystery, we don’t know exactly when love come and go. I don’t want to compare your love to another love happened to me previously. Your love is definitely difference, it is hard to describe in any words, I am speechless. If you ask me to tell how deep my love for you, I am going to answer my love for you is invaluable.
KAHFI KAHARULI
062154203
Gladys Luckyta P.R
062154208
Dear My lovely diary
In the afternoon, I went to Mel house with Laura. And then we sat down in the kitchen and drink a bottle of gin. Mel tells us about their love story. Mel and Terry had been married for four years. And many problems in their marrying happened. They tells about Ed. Ed is Terry’s lover last time. He obsessed with Terry. He become a typical psychopathic prototype, or “mania lover”. Untill one day, he found his lovely, obsession, and adoreable Terry had a relation with Mel. He gone mad and he followed them wherever they go. For him, their relation is a chaosity. And he couldn’t take it anymore. Finally, he commited suicide. He put the gun in his mouth, pull the trigger and send the bullet through his head and he fucking dead. And the story was quite different from me.
After that long and tragic story, Mel asked me what we talk about when we talked about love. And my answer was I love Laura so much and kissed her hand with every love I have. We are lucky eventough we just have married for one and a half years. I’m kind of storge love typical. Because I met Laura when I found her in courtship. At that time, we began to know each other then we were bestfriends and finally we married.
Yes…my name is Ed!
Dear no one…
At the present, I feel so confuse with my own self. I feel flustered with my attitude, my demeanor, and my dumb personality. I had a perfect life, a great job, and I also had a gorgeous wife, even the best wife a man ever had. She is a beautiful woman, with dark eyes and brown hair that hung down her back, make her like an angel that God has sent to me. Beside her appearance, the most thing that makes me falling in love first to her is because of her sincerity to love me the way I am. Although I often torture or call her with impolite words, but she never do a protest and even always smiling back at me. That’s why I feel so silly to myself. Why I must hurting and make her suffered? Until now, I still can’t find the reason or explanation about that simple question. But believe it or not, I did not hate her at all! I even love her with all of my life. I admitted I often hitting or kicking her, I even ever threaten to shoot her with my twenty-two pistol, but that’s just because I don’t want to lose her. But why…why I can’t show it to her in the right way? Can you explain that question? I ever met a psychiatry to ask for solution about my personality problem, about why I always hurting my innocent wife, while I also love her. Then the psychiatry said that the kind of my love to Teresa, my wife, is called “mania”. He explains that “mania person” usually love someone with consume by emotional. They have many various reasons why always torturing their own couple. Mostly is because “mania person” is too easy to get jealous and afraid if their couple will leave them. That’s why they try hard to keep their soul mate, mostly with violence way. And then, he gives a suggestion to me to be more patience and not doing something with emotion first. After heard the psychiatry’s explanation, I realized that what he said is right. I love Teresa a lot, till I’m afraid to wake up in some morning without her by my side. But still, I can’t change the way of treat to Terri, she usually called. I’d still say in a harsh manner to her, still slapping and beating her face, everything is still in the same worn out condition. The psychiatry’s suggestion didn’t really helping, even didn’t change anything. My brain is stuck! I feel guilty, but I can’t fix this situation. I just want to hold my lovely wife in an ordinary way, but it seems so difficult to do. Finally, when my problem is getting bigger, and I still can’t find the solution, I decided to kill myself. Yes, I did a suicide, shot myself in the mouth with my pride twenty-two pistol! Maybe if I’m dead, Terri will be detached from her suffer because of me. Good bye Terri, good bye my lovely wife. I hope you will find the right husband to keep in your side someday. But please don’t forget about me, your truly husband that loving you with his own way…
ARIS HANDOKO 062154212 SASTRA INGGRIS
Dear diary.....
Today I heard from my husband, Mel, what his opinion about love. I know that I am not the first one on his life and so do I. He is not my first husband and from both of them, my ex husband and my husband now has a different way in loving me. My first husband, his name is Ed, did the crazy thing in loving me. He beat me up, dragged me around the living room by my ankles and my head kept knocking on things while he said that he love me. Oh my God, why I should remind all of my last memories of my ex husband.
Did I believe this kind of love? Of course I did not. There is no one loves someone with such kind of this attitude. I just thought that he tried to kill me every second of my live, and I get stressed from this relationship. I passed my day with the scariness, all the time and every single day. Until I met with Mel, I realize that I can found someone that can love me like the other do in commonly I was falling in love with Mel and I decided to leave Ed, I can not live with his habit any longer time. Mel and I live together but we can not find our happiness because of our scariness of my ex husband, Ed. Ed still come in to my live. He was not only try to kill me, but also he tried to kill both of Mel and I. We lived like a fugitives. In every single day we tried to save our live and even Mel got his own gun to as a self defence. And this scariness was end when Ed suicide. Ed tried to kill himself by shot in the mouth. At that time I just realize that I do love Ed like I love Mel.
And today when I heard what is Mel opinion about love I was surprise. I thought that he was drunk, but I know what he had said is true. Someday if we meet with someone else that love us like we love him too we will forget all of our memories in the past. We will forget the way they love us and the way we love our ex husband, wife or boy or girlfriend. Like Mel forget his first wife and I forget Ed. Mel love me with his own way and so did Ed. Maybe he is mania, that express his love by that attitude. With his arrogance, jealousy, sorrow and etc, but now I know that it is kind of love and when I told Mel, he thought that I was crazy. Yap, I know, he would not believe that the person that have tried to kill me is love me. Ed, was love me with his own way. He did not love me like Mel love me, but I believe that he love me. And I do love him. Pore Ed.
Every time he also tried to kill himself, that is make me know that he was not only try to hurt me but he try to hurt and even he try to kill himself. He was sorrow and I can not help him. I can not understand him. How pore he was. Now I have found my love and forget Ed. Forgive me God. I just can accompany him in his last time. I know you love me Ed and I do love you too. I hope that now you are happy in your new life, without sorrow anymore.
Albuquerque, nineteenth of November 2008.
Rikho Pristi K.
062154202
English Literature '06
What We Talk About When We Talk About Love
Dear you…
Deep inside of my heart, I know that you love me and I do love you. You mean so much to me. I know that you are the one that was created for me. You know, you make my life perfect. Only you can make things better when it feels like the end. And also only you can be the one to solve my fears away. And for this, I thank you for being there. Thank you for always gave me a shoulder to lean on and always care. Thank you for saved me from Ed’s abusive behavior.
Honey, I hope you never leave me. I want and I need you in my life to make me complete. I want to spend my life time and grow old with you. I love you and I love the way you love me.
But I just want to tell you, Ed loves me, loves me too much. Although the way he loves me was wrong. He just did not know how to show his love.
But it passed away. Now, I am yours and you are mine. I hope we always be together and never be separated. I love you until the end of time.
Rizsha Fidyanni
062154214
English Literature ‘06
Dear my lovely wife..
I love you so much, I love you with all my heart and soul, and I love you sincerely from the deepest of my heart. I’m sorry for my love, for my greatest love to you. Forgive me for what I’ve been doing to you all of this time. Forgive me for the way I treat you, the way I always call you with impolite words, the way I always torture you, and even worse, threat to kill you with my pistol. I don’t know how, and I really don’t know why. All I know is, I really love you and don’t want to lose you, I really afraid to wake up in the morning and find that you’re not by my side. I can’t figure out why I treat you like that, I don’t even hate you for God sake! The only common sense that came into my mind is what the psychiatry have been said to me, that it’s just the way I show my greatest feeling of love towards my wife. I’ve decided to put an end of my life, to release Terri from my abnormal way of loving somebody, to release her from my love, to release her from me. I feel guilty for myself and for my lovely wife Terri, but I can’t find a way to show my love to my wife like the other “normal” person did to their wife, it’s just me, it’s just the only way I can show my deepest love to her....
DICKY FIRMANZAH 062154219 SASTRA INGGRIS
Dear my sweetest life…..
I’m so greatfull have been born as Terri who has a wonderful life in this world and I am also thankful have been given a kind and lovely husband as Mel. I don’t know,what would happend to me if I didn’t meet Mel!!!!!..........
Mmmm…… maybe I would be the only one woman who suffer in this life. Mel had been save me from Ed. Ed is my ex-boyfriend who ever load my life. When I still together with him, he always beat me up,dragged me around and hurt me everytime. When he done these actions, he always said that he loved me so much. I don’t know what kind of love that Ed had in his mind!!!.......................
But from the bottom of my heart, I was sure that he loved me so much. I could feel that.
It means that everyone have the different way to love somebody. Moreover, when I left him alone, he tried to suicide by dringking rat poison as suicide attempt. Mmmmm…. You know that these act is more over,right!!. Fortunately, Ed lived for a while but he threatenned to kill Mel because he was angry when he knew that I was being closed with Mel. Eventually, Ed died by shooting his mouth by himself. I know that all of Ed attitude because of his huge love to me. And he didn’t like if I would be happy with other guy. It means that he was mania lover who possesive, dependent, jelous, and controllinng. He was approach to a “healthy” romantic relationship focuses on turmoil, extreme reaction and evenn obsession. And he can involve suicide threats, stalking or physycal violence.
Even though Ed was so possesive to me, I still respected his love. And I believe on agape love that I adhere in my mind that it focuses on giving without any expectations or strings attached from someone. Thank’s God for sending me the special people like Mel and Ed in my life. Maybe I am the lucky one woman who be loved by that mans like Mel and Ed in this world.
With Love
Terri
Risallah Ari P
062154207
English Literature '06
Dear diary,
Today, in the afternoon I and my husband Nick visit to Mel’s house. Mel is my husband’s best friend. And his second wife’s name is Terry. At the time I sat around together with them in Mel’s kitchen table. We discussed about of love. We tell about our own love. Suddenly, I remembered the first meeting between I and Nick. I was a legal secretary and we met in a professional capacity. Before I knew it, it was courtship. Slowly, our friendship developed to be love. I believe that it was a kind of “storge” love. It looked at first I met him. Storge means natural affection. Usually, it was begin with friendship.
I would really thanks god for all of you giving to me.
You give me a light of my life. You sent a man that loved me so much.
I love you too honey. I would be happy with him.
I would love you, more than you love me. ^_^
Riza Widian M
062154206
English Literature ‘06
Love actually is not to be a calamity, despair and miserable. Like what has happened in Ed’s life. My life.
I do love Terri so much, there is no one that can replace her. And I will not willing if there is another man who loves her. Event I will not let her being possessed by another man. But, the reality does not go along with me, Terri marries with Mel, the man whom I mean.
I feel that it is such kind of calamity for me, when the one I love taken away from my side. And she unfortunately, let me alone, very alone with all the serenities. With so much burdens that I have and so much fixations. I become out of control., my life turns to be ominous, void, and sob. I think that someone whom I love is mine, really mine, not for other.
See these facts, I could not keep my emotions up any longer. My heart has ripped. I feel, I am betrayed, and those feelings drive me out from my logical thought. Take me to such trifling attitude, and lose. I want to kill Mel!
Although I have that ambition, I actually realize that it can not make Terri back. She has a perfect life with Mel, she must be hate me if I force to do such thing. I can not do that! But what have I do to heal my ail sense?? To relieve all these pains, to make me laugh and smile again. I am not too clever to lie that I can undergo my life without her.
Finally, I chose one decision. My last decision that I have to decide. Even I don’t know, is it good for me or not? I suicide.
Now all the pains which I have are vanish, but I wont never meet Terri anymore.
This is kind of excessive love. An obsessive love, jealous and extreme. A person in love this way is likely to do something crazy or silly. It is troubled love with dependence on the other person, great intensity and is accompanied by the most chemical changes in the body which can make the person unable to work or study properly. In other word, it is love that consumed by emotion. This is Mania’s theory.
Atika Smara
062154205
English Literature
What We Talk Abut When We Talk About Love
Have you ever falling in love.. If you ask me, I say yes. When the first time I met her. I think she was a beautiful woman that I ever met. Her eyes is bright and she is easy to be with. We love each other. Than finally we are getting married. One a half year I pass my life with my wife Laura. Yes, her named was Laura. We didn’t have a baby yet. But it’s not a problem.. We keep being a harmony family. One day my friend Mel invite us to take a chat together in his house in the afternoon. When we were there, we was sitting in his kitchen. While we enjoy the sunlight and drinking gin, we are talking about love. My friend Mel has a wife. Her name is Terry. She is talking about her first marriage which hasn’t good character I think. Although I didn’t know her first husband, but from her story I know that he have an abnormal attitude to his wife. Well, I heard she always hit by her husband in one night.. But the strange is, he keep saying love to Terry while he was hitting his wife. Didn’t he think about his wife feeling hurt because of it?? And finally her first husband died because he shot himself in the mouth.. I don’t know what kind of those love. Why he hit his wife if he love her..? And it’s not make sense if Terry said that’s called love too. .
Until now she still feels sorry about her husband death. My friend Mel unacceptable about that. He feels his wife has a wrong understanding in meaning of love. I by myself agree with him. It’s absolutely doesn’t call love. Well, me and my wife has a good relation. Start with a friends, then we have a date because we want to know each other. We want to found love from us. Then we have a married.
• From my opinion, I think Nick is same with my character. What love means is it comes from real feeling.. no hurt, no sick, no compulsion and pure of love.. it’s not impossible we found love from friendship..
YULITA DAMAYANTI
062154218
ENGLISH LITERATURE '06
I am Laura, I’m Nick’s wife. We have been together for a year and a half. I am thirty-five years old, three years younger than nick. And I am a legal secretary. In this story we was described as “easy to be with”. Nick depiction of me is based on the continuing “honeymoon” tone of our relationship. My comments and expression of affection for nick are presented in marked contrast to the biting tenor of the exchanges between terry and mel. I had been made nick in a professional capacity. Before we knew it, it was a courtship.
My love to nick is eros love. We are lucky. We still on the honeymoon. We have been together during a year and a half. We love each other and we do. The day to day caring about the other person.
If I loved the man, I didn't even know the man. I've only heard her name mentioned in passing. I'm agree with Mel's opinion that love is an absolute, I don't like with tight man. Mel said to me abot something. this happened a few month ago, but it's still going on right now, and it ought to make us feel ashamed when we talked like we know what we are talking about when we talk about love.
Intan nur rahmah
062154217
English literature 2006
Dear my diary,
This is my second married after all of the terror that Ed made. I know Ed very love me, but he use the wrong way to show his love. In that time, I must be bear for what he has done. I just don’t know why he do this to me, I’m his wife and why he treat me so bad? He tries to kill me, but I still love him. Although he always makes me sick, I can’t leave him alone. I still care to him, but when I meet Mel everything is changing. He is better than Ed, he love me and treat me with the right way. It’s very different with Ed. So I decide to leave Ed and make a new life of course a better life with Mel. In that time, Ed becomes mad and going crazy when he heard that I will marry with Mel. He always makes a terror for Mel and me but Mel ignore him although he was scared with that terror. Ed said that he will kill us, but on one day I heard that Ed decide to kill him self. I’m very sad hear that news because in the other side, I still love him because he used to be my husband. I know that he still love me until he decides to suicide. I don’t know what I have to do? I stand like this forever, I have to change this condition. Mel’s love always makes me save. Mel is a doctor and he’s very kind to me. He love me whatever I am. Sometimes he going mad and crazy, maybe he stress with his job and when he going crazy like that he start to talk about Ed again and again. He can’t accept for what Ed has done to me but I don’t care about it, now I life happier than before. And I hope this new life will be longer and happy ever after.
I think Terry’s love is Agape love. Because she love both of her husbands but she didn’t expect anything from them. She just want to living happy and care to them.
Kartika Nugrahani
062154222
English Literature ‘06
-Mel’s diary-
Dear diary…
When my friends, my wife, and I were sitting around kitchen table to drink gin, we were talking about love. Actually, what we talk about when we talk about love?
I love my wife so much. She is Teresa-Terry, my second wife.
Before I married her, I had ever married with a woman but we had separated.
It was also happened to Terry. Before we got married, she has a husband.
Exactly, he’s a crazy husband, his name was Ed.
Why did I say him crazy husband??
Yeah….because he tried to kill terry and me.
He always gives a lot of tortures to terry.
However, terry still called that stuff is love.
She thinks that Ed commits it because he loved her so much.
I hate when my wife said that.
What kind of love is that?
He beat her up and he dragged her around the living room by her ankles
And keep saying I love you, only saying I love you….
Is that called a love?
Huufff…it’s scary me…..
Mostly people called Ed as maniac lover.
He did not want his wife to get related with other people, especially man.
So that when Terry leave him,
He tried to suicide with rat poison but he failed.
He was safe from the death.
And one day he tried more to suicide.
He shot himself in the mouth.
Finally, he had succeeded doing suicide caused of love!
Now, I want to life forever with my beloved wife…
I do not want Terry remember her incident in the past.
I want to have life that full of love with Terry…
I love you honey…
Dian Septiana Cholida
English Literature ‘06
062154019
Hi..my beloved Diary…
Here, I want to share something to you…
I have found someone special in my life, someone who loves me so much. He is my beloved husband, Nick. There is no doubt about his love on me. He has his own way how to love me. He always makes me happy. I always feel secure beside him. He does understand me. It is very nice of him. He is the real husband I want. I love you Nick…
It has been long time for me in finding someone who love me like what Nick do. He gives his love without requisite. He gives his true love just for me. He gives his attention and care, and also his loyalty.
Diary, just hear what I say..!! Someone who loves you will do everything for you. He will always make you feel secure and comfort beside him. And the most important is, he will never hurt you. And will always love you, ever after…
Trust me…
This is the love I do believe in..!!
TIA PUSPITA GESTIANA
ENGLISH LITERATURE
062154018
I am Mel, Mel McGinnis. I’m a cardiologist. I have leaved my first wife. I left her because I did not love her anymore. I do not want to live with someone who I did not love anymore. It will be useless if I live with her, and this life will be hard and has no romantics anymore. Then I met Terry. She is a bone-thin woman with a pretty face, dark eyes and brown hair that hung down her back. She likes necklaces which are made of turquoise and long pendant earrings. I’m falling in love in her. I love her very much. She ever talked to me that she has left her lover because he was too possessive. He always make Terry suffered. He was so cruel. I love her because she has a same background of life. I left my first wife and she left her sweetheart. I feel so comfort when I close with Terry. She makes me have more desire to life. She gives me the meaning of life. My life has more meaningful. She gives me a light. She also has the same feeling like me. She feels happier with me. She thought that I have guided her from the darkness to the lightness. I know that woman want to be understood. Woman is not thing. Terry is precious woman. I will take her care. I do not want to make her hurt for twice. I want to life together with her until my age over. Terry, you are all I need. God may Terry and I will life together, whenever, wherever, forever.
Pragma is type of love wherein the partners sit down and draw up balance sheets on each other. A person develops a list of characteristics desirable in a mate and the goes hunting for right mate. Pragma lovers seek for a relationship that will work. They want exist together and their relationship with their couple is satisfied. They concern with the qualification of potential mate, even than personal qualities. Family and background of life are important for them. They see love is useful relationship that can make their life easier with their couple. The type of Mel’s love is pragma. He looked for someone who has the same background of life; I mean they left their couple because of their own reasons. They met then love each other.
HESTHI TRIYONO
ENGLISH LITERATURE
062154028
Oh i`m sorry my beloved blank paper…
I had to share my story again to you and I hoped you`re still happy
though I made you dirty with my bad handwriting…
That was a nice day, In the morning, sunlight filled my kitchen from the big windows. In the afternoon, sun was still like in a presence in my house. In addition of the nice day is the warm meeting. It was not about hard meeting, but an easy and joyful meeting with my friends. Nick and his wife, Laura, my wife, Terri and I were sitting around in my kitchen table drinking gin. I’ve been together with Terri for 5 years and we had another person that we married before. But I looked still love each other, My wife and I put the ice bucket, gin, the tonic water on the table. And guess what we’re talking about ? Yeah, LOVE. We were talk like we know what we`re talking about when we talk about love.
Firstly, Terri told me about her previous husband, jealousy, crazy and rude. His name is Ed. One time Terri’s previous husband’s going to kill her. Is Ed crazy ? Terri even said it’s love. I shocked. I don’t think so, he’s just a criminal, he’s love is such a Maniac love, he controls everything by his emotion, without using his brain first.
Secondly, after that, We drank gin together, and I still never stop talking about love, I was going to prove my point I told them what real love is by my experience as a cardiologist. I told about the Real love. I told them about the old couple who got car accident with drunk teenage. The old man was very bad condition, little eye-holes, nose-holes and mouth-holes. He was still depressed. The old wife had to have her legs. The man`s heart was breaking not as his condition but he sad because he couldn`t see his wife. It is exactly a sadly situation for me and know what the truly meaning of Real love.
Thirdly, Laura told, Nicky is my only love and no one can replace him, I knew our marriage is going to 18 months, but I am sure this is going to be last forever, I think my love for Nicky is a Pragma love, everything can be easy with him,
It was why I am very amazing today. I got a prove from the theory that I got when I joined five years in a seminary before quitting to go to medical school. I got some love meaning from the seminary. And from the warm meeting, I got a new knowledge and information. In fact, a kind of love is several. I found a maniac love from the Terri , real love from the old couple, and joyful relationship love from Nicky and Laura.
Thank God I’ve found your day today…
Thank my blank paper too, because of you , I can share with you and help me to increase my mind`s burden
Eka Paksi Putra as Mel McGinnis
062154020 English Literature 2006
I feel happy when I sat around together with Nick, Laura, and my lovely husband, then we enjoy drinking a bottles of gin, and we talked about love. I remembered to my ex-boyfriend Ed who has ever lived with me before I lived with Mel. He loved me so much. But he often beats me up one night and even dragged me around living room. He said that he loved me. I am sure, that I’m not totally wrong to say that there was love. I know that he is too different from others. It may sound crazy for anyone. He had his own way, but he loved me. Ed threatened to kill me and Mel because he was jealous. Ed tried to suicide by drinking rat poison, when I left him. I could see that he didn’t want to let me go away. And he didn’t want to find me with someone else. He even decided to shot himself in the mouth. I see that it because he loves me. It’s just like “love mania”. It is types of love which are the man have big willingness or desire for belonging someone and they will kill anyone who wants to obscure their desire. It really happens to Ed. It sounds scary. He threatened us as fugitives. He has ever terrorized Mel by calling in a phone. Oh my God, it made us uncomfortable to set us free. Sometimes, Mel is right that love is we don’t try to kill people. But I have taken the evidence. He was willing to die for it. He did die for it. And I have kept my Ed’s love to my bottom of my heart.
But I and Mel live together in simple apartment. We love each other. I accept my lovely husband with all his suffering. I called it as “agape love” or selfless love.
Ade Irawan Kristianto
062154216
English Literature 2006
Dear diary....
That’s a nice day. Me and my husband, Nicky, went to Terri and Mel’s home last night. We are talking about our love. At the first time, Terri told me about former husband, rude, jealously, and easily to get angry. Sometime, Terri’s former husband tried to kill her. It’s crazy a lot !!! Terri’s former husband said to Terri,” I love you, i love you, you bitch !! He can’t controls his emotion. I don’t think so, he’s just a criminal, his love is such a maniac love.
In same time, Mel never stop talking about love until he couldn’t control the words came out from his mouth, i thouht he’s drunk and we drank together. They have been married for 4 years and they would another person they married with before. But they looked still love each other like my sweety husband, Nicky, and me. I love Nicky a lot, he can give me real love, he can’t replaced anyone. I know our marriage is going to 18 months, i’m really this is going to be last forever, i think my love to Nicky is a true love. I knew him a lot of before we are decided to marry, and until today i can see his love to me still burning like fire in his eyes
Thanks god, i have found my sweety, Nicky....
Fithrony Febri Anggoro as Laura
English Literature 2006
062154023
Dear diary....
That’s a nice day. Me and my husband, Nicky, went to Terri and Mel’s home last night. We are talking about our love. At the first time, Terri told me about former husband, rude, jealously, and easily to get angry. Sometime, Terri’s former husband tried to kill her. It’s crazy a lot !!! Terri’s former husband said to Terri,” I love you, i love you, you bitch !! He can’t controls his emotion. I don’t think so, he’s just a criminal, his love is such a maniac love.
In same time, Mel never stop talking about love until he couldn’t control the words came out from his mouth, i thouht he’s drunk and we drank together. They have been married for 4 years and they would another person they married with before. But they looked still love each other like my sweety husband, Nicky, and me. I love Nicky a lot, he can give me real love, he can’t replaced anyone. I know our marriage is going to 18 months, i’m really this is going to be last forever, i think my love to Nicky is a true love. I knew him a lot of before we are decided to marry, and until today i can see his love to me still burning like fire in his eyes
Thanks god, i have found my sweety, Nicky....
Fithrony Febri Anggoro as Laura
English Literature 2006
062154023
I am Mel MCGinnis. I am a cardiologist. I had ever married with a woman but we get divorce. but from her, i got a daughter and i love her so much. Now I merried with my second wife, her name is Teressa-i call her Terri. She is a bone-thin woman with a pretty face, dark eyes, and brown hair that hung down her back. She likes necklaces made of turquoise and long pendant earring.
Terri also had ever married, her first husband is Ed.Ed love terri very much, but i think it isn't love and i think Ed is a crazy man. Ed ever try to kill terri and always hurt her. Ed also threaten me and terri. But I don't know why she called that fucking behavior as love. terri said that although Ed do that, that's because he love her so much.
I believe in love. But for me, true love is just like a spiritual love. My love is like pragma. I meet Terri in the right time. I need people that love me, care about me and can make me feel comfort. and so do terri. Terri needs someone that can protect her and so do i. I need someone care about me, and i found it in terri.
So we decided to married. I will not let terri sad and despair again and i promise to give happiness to terri's and our live.
Rifky Heru Susilo as Mel McGinnis
062154011
English literature '06
Ed's attention to me in my past time isn't love. it can't be called love or a pity. he is mad and a maniac one night he beat me up and dragged me around the living room by my ankles. and he kept saying " i love you, i love you, you bitch."he even knocking my head to something. this situation drive me crazy and give me bad memory that i didn't want to get it anymore. maybe he do it because he love me so much but i didn't care i won't get hurt. Ed is a maniac but thanks god i am no longer with him again and now i get happiness with someone with Mel McGinnis as his name...
Ed's attention to me in my past time isn't love. it can't be called love or a pity. he is mad and a maniac one night he beat me up and dragged me around the living room by my ankles. and he kept saying " i love you, i love you, you bitch."he even knocking my head to something. this situation drive me crazy and give me bad memory that i didn't want to get it anymore. maybe he do it because he love me so much but i didn't care i won't get hurt. Ed is a maniac but thanks god i am no longer with him again and now i get happiness with someone with Mel McGinnis as his name...
Ed's attention to me in my past time isn't love. it can't be called love or a pity. he is mad and a maniac one night he beat me up and dragged me around the living room by my ankles. and he kept saying " i love you, i love you, you bitch."he even knocking my head to something. this situation drive me crazy and give me bad memory that i didn't want to get it anymore. maybe he do it because he love me so much but i didn't care i won't get hurt. Ed is a maniac but thanks god i am no longer with him again and now i get happiness with someone with Mel McGinnis as his name...
Ed's attention to me in my past time isn't love. it can't be called love or a pity. he is mad and a maniac one night he beat me up and dragged me around the living room by my ankles. and he kept saying " i love you, i love you, you bitch."he even knocking my head to something. this situation drive me crazy and give me bad memory that i didn't want to get it anymore. maybe he do it because he love me so much but i didn't care i won't get hurt. Ed is a maniac but thanks god i am no longer with him again and now i get happiness with someone with Mel McGinnis as his name...
arif maulana d. s.
062154223
Diary, becoming a person who being loved by two men put me in a difficult situation that I've to pass. Ed,a man I lived with before I lived with Mel,loves me in a very different way. He doesn't love me the way Mel love me.
When Ed still alive I ever pass the situation when Ed tries to kill me. One night, he beat me up and dragged me around the living room by my ankles. But, he kept saying I love you when he went on dragging me around the living room. Moreover he ever threated me and also Mel with twenty-two pistol before at the end he shot him self in the mouth and died. Oh my god what do you call a love like Ed's love? Ed's love is the type of mania love, he will do anything for his love. And it's a reason why he tried to kill me, because he doesn't want anybody own me except him. And also a reason why he did some terrors to Mel.
Mel, Dr. Melvin R. Mc Ginnis, my Husband is a cardiologist. We have been together five years and been married for four. He loves me in a very different way from Ed. He never hurt me, He is full of love and care. He looks love with a logic point of view. For him, the true love is looks like the way of him and the old couple did. The old couple is his patient who hit by a kid and got terrible injured.
Mel's love is the type of pragmatic love, physical love that impulse that drives you to someone special, as well as love of the other person's being. Mel often said to me that Ed's behavior is not love, of course he hate Ed's behavior and we often had a quarrel when we talk about Ed.
Then, about my own love which stand between that two men. I feel that love is an agape love. With Ed, eventhough he hurt me so much, I don't do anything except received it as the way he loves me, and also with Mel. I feel very selfless and just received the way my husband loved me.
Novitha Ayu.I
English literature 2006
062154005
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